Index

  • The Foundation of Covenant
  • Be Wise Concerning the Marriage Covenant
  • Submit One to the Other in the Fear of God
  • The Marriage Covenant is Between a Christian Man and a Christian Woman
  • Wives Submit Unto Your Own Husbands
  • The Husband is the Head of the Wife
  • Wives are Subject Unto their Husbands as the Church is Subject Unto Christ
  • Husbands, Love Your Wives as Christ Loves the Church

Preface...

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I am a blessed and happy husband of "one" wife (Wanda), my bride and best friend since1988. In April of 2013 we celebrated 25 years of our marriage covenant. We have 3 children and, so far, 5 grandchildren.

This writing has been transcribed from a recorded message I preached in 1999 for a Christian couple celebrating 50 years of marriage. It has been edited for content to make for easier reading and clarification.

Scripture text is from Eph 5:17-33 KJV

Gary S Brooks, Apostle, TH.D

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Part 1


The Foundation of Covenant

There is a covenant that is employed by all of us based in the New Testament blood of Jesus Christ, employed by all of us who are servants of His, and faith in His blood has joined each of us to Christ. Covenant is based upon His blood, but our fellowship is based in light. And if we walk in the Light as He is in the Light, then we have fellowship one with another. Light simply means our understanding of Him. You may love many people but you may not be able to fellowship with them all because things conflict. It ought not be like that but let’s get real, it is! Things conflict in relationships because you don’t maybe understand or agree with me and maybe I don’t understand or agree with you. The foundation of covenant relationship is “The Lord be between us.” You see, I just met this brother the other day and I don’t know him. But I know the Lord is between us, and therefore we can covenant together. That’s the understanding and agreement of the one Person, Jesus Christ, Who’s between us. This brother doesn’t necessarily have to agree with me, and I don’t necessarily have to agree with him. In fact, I don’t know any two that really see completely eye to eye about everything. Do you? All we really need to do is agree with Him Who is between us.


Be Wise Concerning the Marriage Covenant

Now we’re here today to talk about The Marriage Covenant. Ephesians 5, and I’m reading from verse 17. Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is. What I’m going to be reading here is concerning the marriage covenant as it is illustrated out of these Scriptures here. What we have to begin looking at is, if we’re not going to be unwise then we need to understand what the will of the Lord is concerning a marriage covenant. How many would rather be wise concerning the marriage covenant and not be unwise? Because this is where this Scripture’s leading us. We need to understand what His purpose is, what He has determined, and what His pleasure is concerning marriage. What does it mean? What does it show? What does it reveal? The next Scripture verses (18-20) say, And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; The marriage covenant is a Spirit filled relationship!


Submit One to the Other in the Fear of God

Now the reason I’m reading it like this is because, normally, when the Scripture is being given concerning marriage, it begins right at verse 22. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. What I want us to understand is, and I believe it’s what the LORD wants us to understand today, is that we should not be unwise. We ought to know what the will of the Lord is concerning marriage. Now the next verse (21) says, Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. You see, now some of us husbands, we thought like we’re coming into marriage and that makes us the boss now! How many of you bosses found out that you’re not the boss? It just does not work like that! It’s been a religious ideology that talks about the husband being the boss! But the very first thing you must realise about a marriage covenant is that we need to submit ourselves one to the other in the fear of God. All right? And now, he begins to illustrate here. I’m saying, “he”, meaning Apostle Paul.


The Marriage Covenant is Between a Christian Man and a Christian Woman

Let me just say something first before I get on with this. I’m going to just act like you don’t know anything. Is that OK? I’m not messing with you who do know, but I’m just going to act as if you don’t know anything. And maybe there are some of you here today who need to know something about the marriage covenant. The Book I’m reading from is a letter. It’s like somebody sat down and wrote you a letter and signed his name at the end. His name happened to be Paul. He was an Apostle. But the letter was addressed to those who were in a Church in Ephesus and was addressed to those who are the saints, those who are in Christ, as those who would follow the will of God. They were Christians. They were people who were saved. How many hear what I’m talking about? This was a letter that was addressed to Christians. It wasn’t a letter that was addressed to the world. What has taken place is that the world has taken and distorted that which is Holy and sanctified, and belonging to the Body of Christ, which reveals the marriage covenant between a Christian man and woman. This is the understanding of what the will of the Lord is for a marriage covenant. That which is Holy has just been dealt out into the world to say that husbands are the bosses! Wives, you’re somewhere down on the pecking order! This understanding has been something that’s worldly. It’s not been something that’s been Godly. So, how many are here today who are Christians? You must realise then that this letter is addressed to you! It’s not addressed to somebody who’s not in Christ. You’re in Christ because you’re saved! Let’s keep it simple. All right? So the first thing it says here in verse 21 is, Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God; husband and wife submitting themselves one to the other in the fear of God.


Wives Submit Unto Your Own Husbands

Wives, and now this is how the wife submits to her husband, and then we will talk about how husbands submit to their wives. This is what is written here (Verse 22) Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. You know, you don’t submit yourself unto somebody else’s husband. Amen, that happens now. We are all adults here, right? There are some wives who submit unto somebody else’s husband. Now the first thing a woman needs to understand is that you’ve got no business getting married to the man of God… I’m talking about Christians now because that’s to whom the letter is addressed. You’ve got no business getting married to the man of God if you cannot submit unto him as unto the Lord. The word Lord here means Lord God, or Master. It also means to rule, a sovereign, controller (human or divine), lord, master, or owner. As it was with Abraham and his wife… remember Sarah, whose daughters in the faith you are…  she obeyed Abraham and she called him her lord, as he who had the responsibility of being the head in their marriage covenant. This is going to be well illustrated here. This is a mystery we are discussing today, but it will be illustrated quite well by the Scriptures here.


The Husband is the Head of the Wife

A wife must find now in the spouse, the husband who she is looking to be married to, that she needs to receive him and submit herself to him like the Church does unto the Lord. This is where this verse goes to and will be very explanatory as we go along. (Eph. 5:23) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.Now, some have not understood this so I’ll make it very simple. Here I am, a whole person. Meaning that I have all my limbs. I have a head, feet, arms; I’m a whole person. Jesus Christ is now the Head of the Church and the Church is His Body and He fills the whole Body with Himself. The Church has become members of His Body and we are members in particular. Let’s make it simple. Some of you might be a finger. You may be a foot. You may be an eye. You may be an ear. But as Christians, we are members of His Body and that’s how we need to begin to understand marriage. The husband is the head of the wife in the same way as Christ is the Head of the Church. Does everybody get the picture of that? So if you were to look at me as being male and female, then the male part of me would be my head and the female part of me would be my body. Christ is the Head of the Church, and that is His body. So a bride looking to a bridegroom must realise that the one that she marries is going to become her head. The husband has the responsibility to lead and is placed first in rank as the head in the marriage covenant. This is what it says here (Verse 23), For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church. Now we’re talking about how the wife submits to her husband; then we’re going to turn it around.


Wives are Subject Unto their Husbands as the Church is Subject Unto Christ

(Eph. 5:24) Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Now, to me, the key phrase here is, Therefore as the Church… everybody say, As the Church”. This simply means that, in the same way as the Church is subjected to Christ as being their Head, that it is the same way that the wife should be subjected to her husband as her head. Now let me throw something out to you. If your husband is asking you to do something that’s contrary to how Jesus Christ, as the Head of His Own Church, would have you to do, and your husband insists that he wants you to do it some other way… you are not subject to that! Are you still here? You see, some wives have been beaten up so badly by the husband, spiritually, that they cannot even think for themselves! But it says here, Therefore as the Church. In the same way as the Church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.


Husbands, Love Your Wives as Christ Loves the Church

Now wives, listen, the husbands are not off the hook on these things. It’s not a one-sided affair. (Verse 25) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. We husbands ought to love our wives in the same way that Christ, as being Head of the Church, loves His Church, which is His Bride! You know, forgive me, but I think that any woman would be crazy not to hook herself up with a man like that! How would wives like to be hooked up with a man that loves you in the same way that Christ loves the Church and gave Himself at the cross for her! You see, this is now how the husbands subject themselves to their wives. Husbands love your wives. I want to tell you something now. Some of you might not know this but the New Testament was written in a Greek language and interpreted by scholars in 1611 for the King James Bible. Anyhow, the original translation is from Greek. Many times when the world uses the word love they are really meaning to say "eros, which is the Greek word that would describe sexual love between a husband and his wife. So, there is a Greek word here for love. When it says, Husbands, love your wives, this is the Greek word agapeo, which means to love. Our problem is that when we talk about love… this is what we’ll do in one sentence. We’ll say, “I love my wife, I love my dog, and I love peanut butter sandwiches.” Right? So, do you love your wife the same way you love your dog? No! Do you love your wife the same way you love peanut butter sandwiches? No!

Marriage Covenant Part 2