FOR THIS CAUSE... "There’s no other cause, for a Christian man or a Christian woman is under the covering of their father’s house until their own house is established by the marriage covenant. This man or woman may be outside of their parental home for one reason or another yet they remain under the covering of their Christian parents. It’s for this cause only, the marriage covenant, that a man and a woman should leave their father and mother and be joined to one another. Their union and marriage is to exemplify the holy union and marriage of Christ and the Church.Gary S Brooks, Apostle, TH.D
The original Greek language, here in this verse (25), describes the word love for us better than our English definition does. Agapeo shows the kind of love that God has. It’s a love that is pure and without condition. It’s a love that will never cease and will never compromise. It’s a love that says, “No matter what you do to me, you can’t stop me from loving you!” That’s the kind of love that God loves us with. That’s the kind of love that shows that His mind is made up to love us always and without end. What I also want you to know today is that God loves us greater than just His Mind being made up because the Greek definition of the word love includes another Greek word, which is phileo. This is the kind of love that you would have as an intimate love for a brother or a dear friend… a friendship love. It’s a love that’s of the heart. It’s a love that is full of passion. It’s a passionate and heart-felt love that connects you with someone else from your heart, your mind, your feelings, your will, your emotions and your intellect. That’s how Christ loves His Church. His mind is made up forever and He is forever connected to us from His heart. And there’s nothing that we can do to separate ourselves from the love of God!
A Husband Subjects Himself by Loving as Christ
You see, this is how husbands ought to go into marriages. His mind must be made up and says to his bride that there is nothing that she can do to separate you from loving her. But, at the same time, your heart is in it with deep passionate feelings. Your motives are pure and righteous and always will be. I want you to know that this is how the Lord is towards all of us because, whether we understand it or not, we are His Bride and this is how feels about us. His Mind is made up. He loves us with a pure and righteous love. His Heart is in His love towards every one of us that are in Christ. His Heart with His deep and passionate feelings is willingly and joyfully connected to you. He weeps over you when you go through hardships. He rejoices with you when you are glad. This is the kind of love that a husband should give to his wife!
We must understand then, that Jesus Christ though being the Lord and the Head of the Church, that this is how He has subjected Himself to us… by loving us; by sacrificially giving Himself for us and by giving His life to us! Because we, as a people, now listen, we mess up every single day. But He continues to subject Himself, and to give of Himself daily, in His great love for us, yet without compromising righteousness. His love still says, “I still love you and will continue to love you anyhow.” Where a husband is having difficulty in loving his wife, as Christ, is by not knowing, accepting and experiencing Christ’s heart changing love in his own life, and allowing this kind of love to flow through him to embrace his wife. Christ is so deeply moved in His Heart of love and He desires an intimate relationship with His Bride. That is Whom we reflect as a husband and how we love our wife as Christ does the Church.
See Her as Christ Does His Own Bride
(Eph 5:25-26) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word. All that simply means is that every time we are under the sound of His Word, He is continually purifying and consecrating us for greater intimacy with Himself. (Verse 27) That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. You know for most young husbands, when you first got married to your wife, she could do no wrong. There was no spot in her. There was no wrinkle with her, and you took joy in exhibiting her and presenting her, saying, “This is my bride!” And that is how the Lord’s heart is with His Church, His Bride. He is washing us by His Word that there would be no spot and no defect in His Church in any place. He is removing all the wrinkles and that simply means all the issues of blood… all the issues that man has about serving God, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. His desire is to take His Bride and exhibit her in the Earth to say of her, “She is Mine and I Am hers! She is glorious! She is holy! There is no fault with her! She is without blemish. This is how husbands ought to see their own wives, as Christ does His Bride!
Men are Indebted to Love their Wives as Their Own Bodies
(Eph 5:28) So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. And listen, men, the word ought here, from the original translation, says, “You owe it as a debt and you are obligated.” So if we are going to walk as men of God, before God, then we are under obligation. We owe it. We are indebted to our wife because that is how Christ is towards the Church as His Bride. He has indebted Himself to her to love her as His Own Body. We are obligated, therefore, to love our wife as our own body. It’s the same word love I talked about before but now to love our wife as we do our own body! And he that loves his wife is loving himself. Do you see how simple that is now? If your wife has become your body, then he who loves himself loves his own body. And then he goes on to say (verse 29) for no man ever yet hated his own flesh. Men, what do we do with our own bodies? Do we slap it around? Do we beat it up? Do we tell it how worthless you are? How ugly you are? We don’t do that to our own bodies! Do we abuse our own selves? If we do, we have a real problem. But men usually do not intentionally abuse their own bodies.
She is Now of You
So ought men… husbands are obligated and are indebted to their wives to love them as being their own body. (Eph 5:29) For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church. You see how he keeps bringing that back in. This is how the Lord is to His wife, the Church. If you make a mistake, does the Lord get all over you and say, “You worthless so and so, that is it, you’ve really done it now!” No! If you make a mistake, if you sin, then He’s faithful and He’s just to forgive us our sins and cleanses us from all unrighteousness. So then, He feeds us with tenderness and what we need, and He and is good and full of grace and mercy towards us and cares for us lovingly and warmly, as we are His Own Body. (Eph. 5:30) For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. And there again, talking about the mystery of marriage. Husbands and wives, you have to understand that the wife now has become a member of you. You’re the head and she’s your body. She’s now of you. She’s not separate from you any more for she is of your body, of your flesh and of your bone. All that you are, she is now.
For This Cause
A wife must find now in the spouse, the husband who she is looking to be married to, that she needs to receive him and submit herself to him like the Church does unto the Lord. This is where this verse goes to and will be very explanatory as we go along. (Eph. 5:23) (Eph 5:31) For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. Everybody say, “For this cause”. See, we’re not coming up with some other cause now. If I had to say this the way that it is really feeling here, it is, “This is the cause that a man should leave his father and mother”. There’s no other cause, for a Christian man or a Christian woman is under the covering of their father’s house until their own house is established by the marriage covenant. This man or woman may be outside of their parental home for one reason or another yet they remain under the covering of their Christian parents. It’s for this cause only, the marriage covenant, that a man and a woman should leave their father and mother and be joined to one another. Their union and marriage is to exemplify the holy union and marriage of Christ and the Church. In fact, the next verse (32) says, This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. So, if you had any doubt that I was telling you the truth, you just heard it now! This is a mystery that I’m referring to here. I’m speaking about the relationship of Christ and His Church! This is the mystery of the marriage covenant.
Covenant Will Stand in Relationships
In these days, the Lord has really begun to put a fire, if you will, under covenantal relationships among the Body of Christ. We’re finding everywhere we go now, that there are those that we thought were friends, and they’re not really friends! This fire is also testing and proving the relationships we have with our natural family members. What God is doing in this hour is He’s defining for you who really are your real Brothers and Sisters. Who really are the Fathers and the Sons, your Aunts and your Uncles… are you hearing what I’m talking about? For we are the family of God. In this day, it’s like a fire under relationships and it’s really defining for us… are we in covenant or no? Is the Lord between us or is it a relationship that’s just based on flesh? For what God will have in this day, is that covenant will stand and we have to realise that our Father has made a covenant with us that the Lord Jesus Christ be between us and that we are to find our agreement in Him! It’s not a matter that you and I agree, for we’re agreeing in Him, and then we find our basis of a covenant relationship.
Leaving Father and Mother is a Change of Relationship
Because this is taking place, and this is why I’m thinking about this verse (31), For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is the very cause then that a man should leave his father and his mother. Now I want to discuss leaving. There’s much that has been said about it and I really just want to try to simplify it. This word here, leave, talks about a change of relationship. It means that there is now an adjustment that comes into your relationship with your father and mother. This word shows to reserve that relationship now for what it was, because before marriage that son had covenantal responsibilities within that household, for he was subjected under his father in his father’s house. Now the son has grown up to become a father himself in his own house, so the relationship changes with his father and mother. It is not a matter of doing away with honor. It is not a matter of doing away with where the Scripture says that you should honor your father and mother. That’s how you’re going to live long on the Earth. It’s a commandment with blessing and promise! But the relationship changes and you need to reserve it for what it was, and for what it has become now.